Quick update – still here, had reconstruction and am SO happy I did it. I just hadn’t realized how much it fundamentally distressed me to look down and see a prosthesis and not cleavage. So now I have cleavage. And a flatter tummy, thanks to the tummy tuck. Also, 30 inches or so of scars, but it’s all dealable. Funny the deals we’re willing to make to feel whole. Which is the most important part. I’m exercising more than I have in years, and feel great.